Ed Mylett is an American entrepreneur, who built up himself from broke conditions to now worth more than 400 million dollars. He’s the agency chairman of the World Financial Group, #1 peak performance expert in the world and the best-selling author of the book #MaxOut Your Life that explains his strategies for becoming an elite performer.

Ed Mylett also hosts world’s #1 business podcast – THE ED MYLETT SHOW and currently lives in his massive dream house on Laguna Beach in California.

Here’s his 5 greatest life lessons for success and peak performance in your life.

5. Blissful Dissatisfaction

There are two philosophies, one that says, I’ll be happy when – I get something, and other says – if I enjoy myself now, I’ll loose my drive or ambition. But Ed Mylett says that there’s no correlation between the two.

And to understand this better, IMAGINE, you take up the most delicious dessert you like, and in the first bite of it you are completely – blissful, but inside of you, you are still dissatisfied with what you have got and still want to have more of it.

Bliss causes you to have more of it. And this is exact thing that Ed Mylett explains, that you need to be thankful and grateful for what you get in life, but at the same moment you also need to be dissatisfied with yourself, so that it lets you to achieve more. Its like being self-aware about yourself, and 80/20 principle works out everywhere. 80 percent of time you need to be grateful for amazing things you have in your life, but 20 percent of time, and this is the most important one, you need to be kicking yourself out for what you are not.

4. Stop giving power of your life to somebody else.

This is really very important for everyone, as too many of people are obsessed with what other mediocre people think about them and what you are doing, instead of the lead people who actually matter in their success. This addiction to other people’s opinion is going to kill you in your life.

These mediocre people aren’t going to show up in any important chapters or events of your life, and yet you give them all the power of your life. Stop giving power and control of your life to the people who aren’t in your life’s book. Do your life for the leading characters in your life, you, your spouse, your parents, your children, your legacy – they are the lead characters in the story of you, and your life. Because the more you decide to take control of the script, and the narrative of your life, the more likely at the end of the life, you are going to make yourself the person you always wanted to be.

3. That which you do not hate you will eventually tolerate

This is a quote from Malcolm X, that Ed Mylett truly loves because it identifies most people’s life. Its the average people over the time becomes stuck in their comfort zone and immune to the person they once thought of becoming. If one doesn’t hate being an average guy, that means he likes being the average to some percentage, may be it can be 1% only. But if he allows only that 1% of error and satisfaction, it will eventually start to grow as per time and he’ll start to tolerate that for some moment in life, which eventually will settle down forever.

Never tolerate things like NEGLECT, being average or mediocre. Because when you tolerate things like that, you teach people how to treat you by what you allow and what you tolerate. And that allotment goes into reinforcement and finally settles you down to the things you tolerated. Same goes for the things and situation of your life. Do not tolerate the odds in you life, because what you’ll tolerate is absolutely what you will bring in your life. Let yourself feel the pain of where you’re actually at. It is this place of pain and honesty, that you truly hate, you can have the desire and motivation to change.

2. Identity drives behavior

Ed Mylett has high standards and habits in his own life, and when asked to him, that what drives his high standards and behaviors in life. He replied – Identity drives Behavior, and this could probably be an advice worth millions of dollars. Identity is the same hook of your life that can change your behaviors, and this is something that even resonates with Tony Robbins, as he even explains the same thing.

Identity is the governor of our life, and it’s that massive invisible force that no one understands. If you want to change your behavior and take them to really high standards, you need to think of yourself in a really different way. You are going to be the most powerful force in the world when you are consistent with the concepts, ideas and worth that you hold for yourself. You will get that out of your life.

Identity in life is very much like the thermostat sitting on the wall, once that temperature is set to a certain degree, everything in the world can hit you externally but it will find its way to that temperature. One of the ways to change your identity is to be in the proximity of the people whose thermostat is set at a level above that yours is. Suppose you are on 80 degrees and you get into a proximity of someone 200 degrees over and over again, it will then heat up your identity to somewhere between 110 to 150 degrees. The same is applicable is finance, fitness, success and everything.

Your internal identity thermostat will rise up through association, and this is why people say you are the average of 5 people you hang around with, its because they adjust your thermostat through association.

1. Stack up your gratitude & take control of your morning routines

This is one of the most important lessons from Ed Mylett on how to take control of the things you do in your mornings and in your life, because everything follows by what you do in the mornings. Most people in the world wake up worried, stressed and fearful, and it all happens in the 6 seconds of waking up, and flowing down into these emotions people tend to loose the control of their life, and they start their day with reacting to all the things that now happens to them.

The first thing that Ed Mylett suggests to everyone to do in their life, is to stack up their gratitude. Its very easy of people outside of you to let you know what you are not good at, or what’s wrong or what they don’t like about you, but no one or very few people tend to take you to your good side or say what you’re really good at. So you need to stack up your gratitude, the things you are really grateful for, the people, the events and other thing, and this is gonna make your life really rich when there aren’t any external factors for you to be grateful for.

And once you know the things that you are grateful for, it’s the reticular activating systems in your brains that starts to brings the things that you need into your awareness. And when you stack gratitude you start to take control of the things that you do in the mornings and the things you do in your evenings. The first and fore most thing that Ed Mylett does and advices everyone to do just after waking up, is to thank and pray for the things that you’re grateful for. And the most important thing that he does and challenges everyone to follow is not touch his phone for 30 minutes after waking up.

That’s the thing that will benefit you the most, because what’s ever on that phone, you have to react to and typically its stuff that’s not great. So after you follow along your morning routine, may be taking a shower then meditating and going to the gym, or journaling for your day, etc., then after that you connect to the outer world by taking up your phone. And this is THE KEY important message for all of us, take control of your yourself, before connecting to the outer world and start reacting to the things, and this is something that could really make your life more fruitful and grateful than you think it can be.